Category Archives: Facebook

Social Media Ignorance Is Not Bliss

A recent phone call conversation with a deeply anti- social media proponent spawned this post.  You’re welcome for all of the fury that you are about to experience.


I realize that social media is a relatively new and extremely fast paced, ever changing world, and that can be kind of scary for some people.  However, making sites like Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube out to be evil, is absolutely absurd, and, dare I say it, ignorant.

Granted, I can cite many situations where a social media website was used poorly, if not in a down right evil manner.  The awful suicide story of Megan Meier who was cyberbullied by a friend’s mother on Myspace is one example.  Another is the story of Jamey Rodemeyer, a teen living outside of my hometown, Buffalo, NY, who was openly and proudly homosexual, and often posted YouTube videos about it to help and encourage other homosexual youth.  Anonymous hate posts telling him to die on a semi-popular social media site called Formspring, and constant bullying on YouTube and in school caused his suicide. Not mention, the great number of times that people, specifically those in the public eye, have posted discriminatory and/or racial content on Twitter.

Additionally, social media can be used poorly in other less fatal, but offensive, ways.  Passive aggressive status updates are a teenage girl’s best friend.  Opinions that should often be kept to yourself are often vomited all over our news feeds- save extremist thoughts for the the dinner table, no one wants to feel offended while trying to look through their friends vaca photos.

To quote my mother, “Everything can be used in a good or bad way. Breathing, eating… even sleeping!  Sleeping could be used in bad or evil way too!”  Although I can’t currently think of a way that sleeping could be seen as evil (Oh wait, I got it- sleep is definitely evil during exam week.  So tempting and desirable, but so unproductive), she has a point!  Even the most wonderful, beneficial, nicest thing in the world, intended only for good, could be turned around and used the wrong way.  Just look at the Genie in Aladdin… once Jafar had control of him, everything went to shit.

Anyway, after this incredibly annoying phone call, I took to the Internet and Googled (naturally), “why people don’t like Facebook”.  People, I struck gold.  Say hello to  I encourage you to read some of the articles posted, but I have to warn you that you will probably lose a few brain cells in the process.

The best article I read, which also happened to be the first, was titled “6 Advantages of Not Using Facebook“.  The only thing worse than the arguments made is the grammar.  Keep in mind, this is listed as one of their “Popular Posts”.


I have decided to respond to this article and each of the six “advantages”., I hope that you read this.

1. Don’t Have To Worry About Privacy– Yes, it’s true, Facebook does have some privacy issues. However, for those of us high-function humans who know not to jump into a van driven by a man who’s offering us candy, were able to decipher when it’s a good idea or not a good idea to post something on our page.  I like to call it common sense.

2. Facebook Is A Waste of Time– So is your web page.  So is the majority of the Internet.  HEY, that’s a good idea!  GUYS I GOT IT!  Let’s ban the Internet!  We will all be SO much more productive.

3. Control Over Types of Conversation– You actually have to read the article to understand what the heck this means.  Actually, I still don’t really get it.  This one is just funny.

4. Avoid Higher Risk of Effecting Your Computer From Malware and Scams– In this part of the argument, the author states that some people click on links on Facebook that lead to scams… again, as long as you know not to cuddle with a knife at night you probably know not to click 2f./bylgi.crp for the lifetime supply of iPads that your ex best friend from kindergarten, who you haven’t talked to in seven years, randomly messaged you.  Also, this brings me back to the idea I got in response to number 2- we should probs just get rid of the Internet altogether! YEAH!

5. Reliable Communication– Here the author explains that sometimes people don’t go on Facebook very often! So how the heck are you supposed to get a hold of them!? DELETE YOUR FACEBOOK IMMEDIATELY AND REPLACE THAT CRAP WITH A PHONE. Because you can’t have both.

I mean, really.

6. Can Keep Things To Yourself– Refer to number 1.

Yup, that’s it.  Good one, right?  But I think it’s actually serious.

Have you ever had a conversation with someone that truly hated Facebook? Or Twitter (see my last post)?  How did you respond?  Do you agree with any of these arguments, or have any of your own?  I know I was pretty blunt in my responses, but I do really want to understand where you are coming from if you find yourself against the social media movement.  Fill me in or back me up in the comments! Gracias!

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Help Me I’m Poor.

There’s been a lot of buzz lately on the horrifying news that some employers have been asking for interviewee’s Facebook passwords.  If you haven’t heard about it yet… you must have a job.

I first learned of this apparent new trend while sitting in my Social Media class a couple Wednesday’s ago. One of my fellow students mentioned it to my professor, astounding myself and many other students.  At this point, I can’t even tell you where this started.  If you search “employers asking for Facebook passwords” on, a number of articles pop up, all telling different stories of different people going in for an interview and leaving feeling a bit violated and severely confused.

I realize that today’s job market is more competitive than ever, and people are doing whatever it takes to land a job, any job.  For that reason, I am even MORE astounded over the fact that Congress did not vote in favor of a law that would prohibit employers from asking for passwords like this.  Granted, I know very little about the way that law and government works, other than what my Communications Ethics, Law and Regulation class is teaching me this semester.  However, someone needs to protect us unemployed desperately indebted peoples!

I read in the Wall Street Journal last week that student debt has now surpassed $1 TRILLION.  Do you KNOW how much money that is!?!?  In an effort to be as cliche as possible- desperate times call for desperate measures.  So if a potential employer, a.k.a. a potential solution to my thousands of dollars of debt, asks for my password, well, I might give it to them.  I probably will at least think it over… don’t judge me, I’m poor!  And so is SO much of the rest of the 20-30-year-old world these days.

[Photo credit to mmaytheoddsbeeverinyourfavor on Tumblr]

I just have a simple question for all of you to answer- what is this world coming to?  Since when is it “okay” to ask for someone’s password, for anything?  [Side note: No, it’s not okay for your boyfriend/girlfriend to ask either.  My only advice for you people dealing with that issue is to run.  Run far, far away.  Knowing your s/o’s Facebook password is a dangerous, scary thing that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone.  I’M SERIOUS GUYS DON’T DO IT YOU WILL HATE THEM OR YOURSELF AFTERWARDS… Whoa.  Sorry.  Flashbacks are a very real thing.]

I understand that background checks are a part of the employment process in more ways than one, but I truly believe that asking for Facebook passwords is taking it just a tad too far.  I doubt I could find anyone who disagrees with me, but PLEASE, if you do, give me your rationale in the comments.  Any other support- monetary or otherwise- is welcome.

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The Epic Battle Of Accepting That You’re A Facebook Stalker.

I, Emily R. Marciniak, am a hardcore Facebook stalker.

It’s taken me a while to get to this point- being able to admit it, I mean.

Let’s be honest, we all got a little creeper in us, and social media sites like Facebook and Twitter make it SUPER easy to let it out.  Whether we choose to let it out in full force, full speed ahead, checking out the ex girlfriends/boyfriends of our crushes from 5 years ago and viewing each and every one of their 672 tagged photos, or in smaller forms by simply reviewing a person’s “wall” all the way back to 2009, we. all. do it.

I don’t care if you are shaking your head at me right now.  “No, Emily, I do not stalk people.  I am above that.  And furthermore, I honestly don’t care about the pics people are tagged in, or what my ex best friend is doing with my stupid ex boyfriend on their vacation in Miami.  I just don’t.  So shut up.” Well, no, I won’t.  And I think you are only doing yourself a disservice by not admitting your true identity.  Facebook creeping is nothing to be ashamed of people!  It’s a simple fact of life!

Let me first define what “Facebook stalking” is.  According to the nationally accredited, Facebook stalking is “a covert method of investigation using” Simple, but well put.  Okay, so maybe you don’t go quite as crazy as I do and look through the “Notes” people have written (who even does that… I’ll tell you, basically no one).  However, just checking out a person’s page and giving it a once over could be considered “Facebook stalking”.

I realize that because I already admitted I am a stalker, you might be thinking I’m just trying to justify myself here.  So take it from another internet sensation, “Jenna Marbles”, a popular YouTuber who got her start with a funny video on how to trick people into thinking you’re good looking (WARNING: Jenna is as addicting as she is explicit. Girlfriend doesn’t have a filter.)

To help  you all out if you are still unsure about whether you are a Facebook stalker or not, I’ve made this list based off of some research and some of my own creative stirrings.

11 Ways To Know That You Are In Fact, A Facebook Stalker!

1. You know the middle name of your current significant other’s ex.  You might also know where they went to high school, what their current s/o looks like, and who their friends are, because they’re stalkers too and they keep trying to friend you.

2. You know the times of day that certain people will be checking their Facebook.  Sometimes you get upset staring at their name on FB Chat because they are not instant messaging you. What the hell.  Oh well, we’ll try again same time tomorrow.

3. You check your profile page and go through your pictures nearly every time you add a new friend.  It’s only natural.  That girl who was your arch-enemy in undergrad just added you and you want, no NEED, to look good.  Let’s make sure there’s no ‘special’ photos we need to untag real quick.

4. You limit yourself to only two checks of Facebook per day during Lent at 15 minute increments.  This one might be too specific. Yeah, okay, you got me, this one’s about me.

5. You have a list of friends whom you immediately text every time a new engagement pops up on Facebook. Often times, it’s a race to see who can get the news out first.  And then it’s a race to the anxiety medication because you are SO far away from ever being at that point in your life.

6. Facebook is the first thing you check in the morning, and the last thing you check before bed at night.  In this case, FB is kind of like your relationship partner.  When you find that it’s more reliable than your real life relationship partner, then you have a problem.

7. When a friend ‘temporarily disables’ their Facebook, you assume you have been removed from their friends.  And shortly after send them sad faces in multiple text messages.

8. You have gone through at least one entire photo album of person you do not even know. It’s called “living vicariously”… or being a stalker.

9. You have gone all the way back to the beginning of someone’s “timeline” if they have the new timeline format.  I’m still debating how I feel about this new FB style.  Whatever, it allows me to see what people were doing in 2007 and makes me feel better about how awkward and disgusting I was then too.

10. You are reading this because you stalked my page.  It’s cool.  No one’s judging.  In fact, I’m actually flattered, so thank you!

11. You have ever poked anyone, ever.  This part of stalking is actually just not okay.  Just… just don’t do it.

I hope this helped everyone.  Just take your acceptance a day at a time, or perhaps, a photo, or a profile page at a time.

[For more ways to tell, check out where some of my inspiration came from: click here, here, and/or here.]

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Why Facebook Is Not Helping My Anxiety

Look people, the reality is, whether you like it or not, Facebook is officially a part of your life.  Whether you have a page or don’t (and chances are  good you do- according to, about a year ago, 1 in 13 people on EARTH had a Facebook… on EARTH), you’re making decisions based on Facebook, or because of Facebook, every day.

Every time you meet someone, what’s the first thing you do?  Check and see if they have a Facebook.  Let’s be honest, if they don’t, we assume there must be something wrong with them.  If they do, we first cross our fingers and wish on every star that their privacy settings aren’t so severe that we can’t even see their profile pictures without ‘friending’ them.  If we come across something strange, we DO judge.  Even though in most cases (but definitely not all, I’ve stalked people I’ve never met before), Facebook is like a second impression, it’s become just as important as the first, if not more important.

Recently, I started seriously dating someone.

I don’t think I need to even explain the relevance of this situation here in relation to Facebook, but for the sake of this blog, I will.  One of the most important parts of anyone’s profiles, is their “relationship status”.  If you saw the movie based off of the true story of the beginning of Facebook, “The Social Network”, you would know that this was the final addition to the website that Mark Zuckerberg added before making it public.  The relationship status is the cause of pain and suffering, jealousy, numerous arguments, and serious dilemmas. Which brings me to my current situation.

My last relationship I kept off of Facebook.  Obviously, this was wise because it didn’t end up working out.  It always seemed so obnoxious to me.  Why does every single one of my far and distant friends, including, but not limited to, the guy I met at a bar one time a year and a half ago, my sister’s best friend’s little brother, my great Aunt Susan twice removed, and every single person I ever spoke to in any one of my classes from undergrad- actually I take that back, it doesn’t really matter if I spoke to them or not- NEED to know about my relationship change?  And why go through the potential embarrassment of dealing with your break up being broadcast to hundreds, if not thousands of people, who are guaranteed to make comments like “I didn’t see that one coming”, “you must be really upset”, “you’re better off without him gf!”, and “I’d love to take you out for dinner…”

That being said, my new boyfriend is someone I’ve known for a while, and we have a lot of mutual friends.  Currently, I live in New York City, and he lives in Buffalo, so I don’t get to see or talk to our friends very often.  Thus, I have been debating making the relationship “Facebook official” (this is a very real phrase- you may have heard it in the sentence: ‘It’s not official, until it’s Facebook official’), and I’m not lying when I say it has been causing me a great deal of anxiety the last few days.  Granted, I am pretty neurotic.

Still, I know I am not alone in this.  My roommate is from Italy, where her significant other also resides.  Being “Facebook official” has been the subject of their arguments for the last two weeks.  No lie, it actually caused him to delete his Facebook page for a few days.

This past Saturday, my sister got married.  Approximately 8 hours after saying “I do”, her last name on Facebook was changed and she went from being engaged to married.  8 hours.  Meaning on her actual wedding day, she found the time, rather, she made the time, to go on Facebook and make these changes.  And she’s not alone in this.  I’ve found this to be the case for all of my friends who have recently tied the knot.  Often in even less time than that.

Relationship statuses are just the beginning of how Facebook affects our daily lives.  I could go on for days. What’s your opinion on the matter?  Are you for or against the relationship status?

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